HOW SHOULD YOU CHOOSE BETWEEN THERAPY OR COACHING
Relationship therapy is a medical process (sometimes covered by insurance if there is an illness) and its objective is to help people find their own ways to address and solve their problems.
They can have medically identified problems that make them feel bad emotionally or are impairing their ability to function well. This can include healing from Anxiety, Depression, Mood Disorders, Trauma, issues with their family of origin, their relationships, ADHD, Addictions and many other common problems that can affect not only their own lives but that of their partners.
It’s understood that unless and until these problems are resolved it will be difficult for people to make significant changes in their lives. Once they are feeling stronger and more confident, then they can start taking action to change their circumstances.
Conventional therapists and counselors are explicitly taught to not give anyone specific advice, but rather to help their clients find their own answers to problems. This is especially true with “non-directive” forms of therapy, like Interpersonal Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, and Client Centered Therapy. The net result for many people is that traditional therapy feels like “just talking about their past” without translating to real-world changes.
In many cases health Insurance companies’ rules prevent therapists from telling you what's actually happening and why.We are your advocate and don’t have that limitation. We'll provide you with the information you need, unbiased, and based on facts and proven research.
Because of that many people I speak with for whom conventional therapy has not worked out, largely attribute it to their frustration to not getting “feedback” or helpful guidance in solving problems and making improvements. That’s why they seek out a coach, is in hope that they would get a partner who would offer actual guidance and ideas on how and where to make changes.
Relationship coaching is a skills development method, and its objective is to use the coach skills, knowledge and experience to develop a program that will help people achieve their goals.
The basic presumption of coaching is that coaching clients are in a good place mentally and emotionally, and ready to receive guidance and instruction on how to make changes that will help them achieve their goals. The work focuses on creating and maintaining motivation for change, exploring obstacles to change, and creating plans for change.
Sounds pretty straightforward, right? Actually, this brings us to the biggest difference between counseling and coaching and — in my opinion — the biggest problem with life coaching. That many people do not understand the differences and are choosing to go to one, when they should be going to the other.
In contrast with most counselors, coaches will make specific recommendations, and work with you to help you brainstorm solutions and strategies for changing things in your life. Ideally, a coach would be careful with this, and not push their ideas on you if they don’t fit. An ethical coach will always make sure that the solutions they are proposing are congruent with the client’s belief system, culture, circumstances, and personality. But people seeking help are often looking for real-world guidance. With coaching, they get it.
In addition to giving you very direct feedback about what your problems are and what you need to do to fix them, coaches will also often offer a structured plan of action. This often includes “homework assignments” of various kinds that help you practice new skills and strategies outside of your sessions. Provided that your coach has the education and experience to know what will help you, this clear instruction and specific assignments can be extraordinarily helpful. Having a roadmap for change, as well as a supportive accountability can make all the difference if you are genuinely ready to make changes.
HOW SHOULD YOU CHOOSE BETWEEN THERAPY OR COACHING
Thankfully that’s the easy part. Think about it on this way.
If you are an athlete and have a broken ankle or a severe stomach pain, you go to a doctor/counselor.
But if you are an athlete and want to improve your performance and get ready for the olympic games, you go to your coach.
And if you do not know, don't worry. A good coach will send you back directly to a doctor to treat the true cause of the problem, before he/she can start helping you get ready for your next competition.
SO, DO YOU NEED A COACH OR A COUNSELOR?
SO, DO YOU NEED A COACH OR A THERAPIST?
If you know you have an underlying problem, and you need medical help to treat it, we recommend you to reach out to your doctor as soon as possible.
But if you don't have a known mental illness, and you are looking to improve your relationship, you can choose from one of our programs below.
DATING DISCOVERY REPORT
WITH THE DATING DISCOVERY PROGRAM YOU WILL GET:
Two complete Relationship Discovery Customized Reports (one for you, and one for your partner) that will help you lean:
• What are your individual preferences in the context of this relationship.
• How your individual preferences compare to those of your partner
• The three major potential causes of problems and how to solve them.
$99.95 $19.95 for a limited time
LIVE DATING COACHING SESSION
WITH THE LIVE DATING COACHING PROGRAM YOU WILL GET:
Everything that is included in the Dating Discovery Program:
• Learning which are your individual preferences in the context of this relationship.
• Learning how your individual preferences compare to those of your partner
• Learning he three major potential causes of problems and how to solve them.
And one Live Online (skype/zoom) Coaching Session that will help you:
• Understand how your individual expectations influence your current relationship.
• Learn how to apply the knowledge from the Relationship Discovery Program in a more effective way.
• Answer any questions you may have in regards to our program, or about your relationship challenges.
$299.95 $99.95 for a limited time