Successful Relationships: You need to work on it, but it cannot be “work”
Building a successful relationship takes time and efforts from both parties. Successful long-term relationships involve ongoing effort and compromise by both partners. Building healthy patterns early in your relationship can establish a solid foundation for the long run.
As the months go by it is important to recognize that changes in life outside your relationship will impact what you want and need from the relationship. Since change is inevitable, welcoming it as an opportunity to enhance the relationship is more fruitful than trying to keep it from happening.
What to Do When Conflict Arises
Disagreements in a relationship are not only normal but, if constructively resolved, actually strengthen the relationship. It is inevitable that there will be times of sadness, tension, or outright anger between you and your partner. The source of these problems may lie in unrealistic/unreasonable demands, unexplored expectations, or unresolved issues/behaviors in one partner or in the relationship.
Resolving conflicts requires honesty, a willingness to consider your partner’s perspective even if you don’t fully understand it, and lots of communication. A healthy communication is fundamental for the successful resolution of problems for any couple.
Some of the most important communication rules to keep in mind include:
- Understand Each Others’ Family Patterns.
- Timing Counts, don’t try to solve everything now.
- Establish an Atmosphere of Emotional Support.
- Agree to Disagree and Move On.
- Distinguish between things you want versus things you need from your partner.
- Clarify Your Messages.
- Discuss One Thing at a Time. .
- Really Listen.
- Restrain Yourself.
- Adopt a “Win-Win” Position.
For more information about how to build a successful relationship, please visit the original article Building a Healthy Relationship from the Start.
Now what?
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